A few months ago I was discussing a situation with my dad regarding a friend, unwed and my age that had decided to keep her baby. I put myself in her shoes, and told my dad that if I was her I probably wouldn’t place my baby for adoption either. At age 20, I could totally handle taking care of a baby. His simple response was this, “It’s not about you, but about what is best for the baby.”
After I thought about it, I was able to see his point. How could I financially provide, go to school and take care of my baby? I know that I simply couldn’t do it. It would be physically hard and most of all emotionally draining. I know that I would be exhausted and unable to give my baby the attention needed. However, the reverse situation would be giving my baby a family that can do everything I couldn’t – with a mom and a dad to provide, love and raise the child as their own.
Over the past three years I have watched two friends in this
challenging situation at the same time.
Each girl chose differently – one, to keep her baby and the other
adoption. The girl that kept her baby
has struggled for these years; her relationship with the father ended, she had
to quit school to work her minimum wage job, and dating has become more
complicated than ever. The other, heartbroken
after the adoption but moved on and started life again in school. A few short months later she found her
sweetheart and was a year later married in the temple. I believe that Heavenly Father truly blessed
her for her decision.
Adoption: The decision is difficult but it is worth it. **Posted below are 2 links to my cute aunt and uncle who are looking to adopt. I cannot say enough good things about them. They are amazing parents. I would recommend them to anyone.
http://emandruss.blogspot.com/
